DADsquared℠

Has anyone noticed that more and more couples with kids are choosing to have one of the parents quit their careers and become a stay at home parent?   I meet people daily that either just recently quit their jobs or that have been raising their kids for years as a stay at home parent while their spouse works extra hours at his or her job.   There was a trend in the 80s and 90s for both parents to be working full time jobs.   Now, as I go through my days as a parent, I am finding that more and more couples are making the decision that I made. When I realized that I was going to become a dad, I had to rethink a lot of things about my career and myself.   As the realization set in that we were going to become parents, we sat down and tried to figure this whole thing out.    What happens when the baby gets here?    Do we hire someone to take care of him?   How will he know his caregiver from his parents?   Will we be there for all his “Firsts”(First steps, first words, etc ?)

           One of my favorite television shows is Doctor Who.   It's about a Time Lord from Gallifrey that travels around in time and space in his Tardis, a blue police box.   There is an episode in which the soul of the Tardis is put into the physical body of a woman which allows the Doctor and the Tardis to talk to each other for the first time.   During their conversation, the Doctor tells the Tardis, “You never take me where I want to go!” and she responds with, “I may not take you where you want to go but I always take you where you need to go!”   What a great line....an amazing line really. In life, we don't always end up where we want to go but we always end up where we needed to go.   I have found that to be a great lesson in this life.    When I was a kid, having gay parents was difficult.   I grew up around amazing people and had such wonderful experiences but because of bigotry, the best part of my life was something I had to keep hidd