Thursday, January 22, 2015

To Be a Dad. A Lesson in Fatherhood by Toyota, Yes I Said Toyota.

By Henry Amador

Toyota launched a beautiful new campaigne called "The Bold New Camry."'
Okay before go any further forget what I just said, 
forget that this video is somehow tied into to buying a car, 
forget that it was created to make a buck. 

Forget all of that and sit back and watch this wonderful testament to fatherhood.
I am one of those dads that when asked "how do you know you can be a good dad considering your childhood?" answers the same way, with the same tear rolling down my cheek, "I'm trying."

When each of these kids are asked how they know their dads love them not a one of them answers based on the things they have, they all answer based on the words they hear, the kisses their fathers give them, the amount of love they are shown and the fact that these dads are present in their childrens lives.

Yeah, this video really caught me by surprise, no matter what we came from we all still have the choice and the ability to do better, to be better, to be the dads we wished we'd had.

Great job Toyota, I may just go for a test drive.

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Henry Amador-Batten, One of The DADsquared Founders to Co-Author New Gay Dads Book.

Henry Amador-Batten is proud to announce that he will be co-authoring an exciting new book that will shine a light on gay dads like never before.

Award winning author Hogan Hilling, who to date has published six books on fathers and parenthood invited Henry Amador-Batten to join him on the third "Dads Behaving Dadly" book.

"Dads Behaving Dadly: Truths Tears and Triumphs Of Gay Dads" will feature gays dads, worldwide, as they share their beautiful and unique stories of fatherhood.

"With more and more gay men joining the ranks of fatherhood, there has never been a better time to share these dads, these families and these stories with the world. It has become my honor and my obligation to become a storyteller for these dads, It is my sincere wish that this book will build bridges, touch hearts and help to solidify our place within the global parenting community."
 Henry Amador-Batten

Amador-Batten and Hillings invite all gay dads to share their stories and to be a part of this project.
For submission information go to or click HERE

About The Co-Authors

Henry Amador-Batten lives in Durham, North Carolina and is a strong advocate for the LGBTQ community. Henry is also a contributor to Dads Behaving Dadly II. He lives with his husband and their three-year-old son. He and his husband were the first same-sex couple to jointly adopt a child in Broward County Florida —setting legal precedence for other same-sex families.  He is a certified Holistic Life Coach and specializes in teaching advanced life skills. He is the founding mind behind the parenting blog, DADsquared and has developed it into an amazing resource and support destination for gay dads and dads to be.

Hogan Hilling is a dad, Author of Dads Behaving Dadly and six other parenting books, fatherhood expert and has appeared on Oprah.  Hilling has co-founded and helped establish several fatherhood networks in the USA since 1992.  He is also an expert on creating father-friendly environments in the community and available as a speaker. Hilling lives in Crestline, California.

For more information you can contact the authors at:
Henry Amador-Batten:
Hogan Hilling:

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Man Down! A Gay Dad Waves His White Flag

By Henry Amador

Tired, irritated, angry, distant, envious, tired, overwhelmed, tired, judgmental, did I say tired?

These are some of the ways I have been feeling lately and that really has me feeling, well... tired, irritated, angry, distant, envious, overwhelmed, judgmental and tired, really tired.

I was recently featured in an article on Buzzfeed about how dads balance work and family.
I apparently wrote my contribution under the influence of an alter ego or perhaps a nice Riesling or through a pair of rose colored glasses or a sunny day in Winter, I'm not quite certain, but it made me feel like a fraud.

Read full article HERE

Saturday, January 17, 2015

Five Things This Gayby Doesn't Want To Hear

By Dara Fischer

Henry Amador recently wrote an excellent article for The Next Family entitled, "Eight Things These Gay Dads Don't Want To Hear" The article was so clever and hit the nail right on the head.  After reading the blog, I got to thinking about all the questions I have been asked over the years being raised by gay parents, yes, a gay mom and a gay dad!
I have picked just a few to share.

1. Are you adopted?

No, I am not adopted.  I am genetically 50% my Mom and 50% my Dad.  Though depending on which parent I had ticked off that day, those percentages would increase or decrease.  I also have two non-biological parents, my Terri, whom I have written about before and my Mom’s partner.  I do not differentiate between my parents.  Though I will admit to liking Terri more than my Dad most of the time.  Dad can cook but Terri was a hairdresser who could not only perm my hair but brush it without ripping it out.  Terri’s talents were greatly appreciated during the big hair fad of 1992. 

2. Are you gay since your parents are?  Isn’t homosexuality genetic?

My Dad and I have a lot in common down this alley.  We both appreciate a good looking man.  Since I am female, that means that I am straight.  I have never been in a same-sex relationship or had the inclination to do so even though I have always viewed gay relationships and straight relationships as one in the same.  Now, I will admit to there being a few little details that genetics have blessed me with.  While I am heterosexual, I would identify as androgynous.  We have a joke in our family that I look like my Mom and act like my Dad.  Physically I am a good sized woman.  I tower in height over most females and I am built solid.  Back home we call that corn-fed but in California, it means you are a big girl.  Luckily Keith likes beefy chicks.  I am not classically feminine, either in appearance or behavior.  Because of this, I am mistaken for being a lesbian quite often but on the upside, I have been hit on by some pretty hot chicks.  If I swung that way, I bet I’d have some really great stories to tell.

3. Does having gay parents make your relationships more complicated since your parents weren’t married so you didn’t see a “normal” marriage?

No, in fact, I think it has made it easier.  My parents may not have been officially married but they lived as married couples.  I witnessed all the same things my friends did but with the understanding that a piece of paper does not make a marriage, the relationship does.  Keith and I are 11 years into our relationship and we are not legally married.  Not only are we not legally married, neither of us consider that to be an issue nor do we have any plans in the immediate future to change our marital status.  My parents taught me that I don’t have to be bound by tradition or other people’s expectations of me.  Just like my parents, Keith and I are not bound by a legal document, we choose to be together because we love each other.  A piece of paper is never going to be more valuable to us than the dedication we have to one another and our children.

4. Were you bullied for having gay parents?

Yes, very much so.  I love my parents and just like any other kids, I will defend their honor (well, what’s left of it anyway) to my last breath.  Most kids got into fights for someone calling their Mom fat but I had to deal with such lovely terms as: faggot, dyke, pansy, queer, and my personal favorite…..butt pirate.  Though in all fairness, I didn't understand the butt pirate comment until I was much older.  I was bullied, a lot.  Even though it was horrible at the time, what I took away from it was valuable.  I have never been one to stand for bullying.  I stood up for my friends when we were kids on a regular basis and I don’t allow my children to participate in bullying, either as the victim or the perpetrator.   A while back I found out that my daughter had been involved in bullying another girl at our local Boys and Girls club.  I know most parents would speak privately to their children about the issue but I didn't take that route.  I intentionally chastised my daughter in front of her little group of friends for being a bully and a person that nobody actually likes.  I had a few parents that told me I was wrong for doing it but by and large I got positive feedback.  While my method wasn't conventional, it achieved what it was meant to.  My daughter had to feel what her victim was going through and wouldn't you know it, we haven’t had an issue since.

5.  Who was the Mom and who was the Dad in your family?

When I was a kid, this question perplexed me.  Luckily by the time I was an adult I realized that what I was being asked was what gender roles my respective parents played in my formative years.  I always thought it was interesting that the question was posed in reference to my Dads more often than my Moms.  My Dads were men.  Terri was a little softer spoken, as is my Dad’s current partner Richard, but they were still guys.  My Dad is a guy’s guy.  He watches football, farts, and scratches places I don’t even want to think about.  In fact, most people don’t realize my Dad is gay when he’s not with Richard.  I can’t count how many times I have watched women hit on my Dad…including in gay bars!  Though I do feel odd seeing females pick up on my Dad, it just seems more natural to me when he gets hit on by men.  I didn't field too many questions concerning my Moms but I think that’s because for some strange reason, people seem to view female homosexuals are more acceptable than gay men.  Though my guy buddies in high school appreciated my two Moms but I think for a whole different reason.

Dara Fisher. A 33 year old Mother of 3 amazing children with her Prince Charming Keith.  
They live right outside of Palm Springs, California. Dara has degrees in Anthropology, Liberal Arts, and Business Administration.  
She works full time in the Hospitality Industry and attends college classes in pursuit of her MBA when she's not busy being Super Mom.   
She spend her spare time crocheting, quilting, and making a mess with pretty much anything she can get my hands into.  She is a huge Doctor Whofan and  can't eat while watching The Walking Dead. 
Oh and she also happens to be the daughter of gay parents and the Mother of a child with Asbergers  Syndrome and ADHD

8 Things These Gay Dads Do Not Want To Hear.

1. When are you going to tell him he's adopted and do you think he will take the news well?

We're not, we are planning on waiting until he is either eighteen or just senses that he's different to SURPRISE him with the news. Adoption is not a bad word, we have used the term since he was born. Firstly we are two men, as soon as the birds and the bees fly into our home he might start to get an inkling but by the time that rolls around he will be very comfortable with the idea of how our family was created.
Read the full article HERE