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Mother’s Day Through A Gay Dad’s Eyes

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Another Mother’s Day is right around the corner. Our fourth since our son was born. As any writer will tell you, especially a gay dad writer, this day gives birth (pun intended) to many articles about how our types of families handle this yearly event. And let me tell you, that there are countless scenarios playing out all over this great big world of ours, this is just humbly.. mine. Read full article  HERE

A Gay Father’s Simple Hopes For Justice Sotomayor

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So I would never use the word intelligent to describe myself. I am far from a thinker or an over analytical man. I am much simpler than that, more basic, I’m a feeler. I trust my gut and my instincts and I make every attempt to move away from what what I perceive as pain and move towards what my spirit senses as pleasure. The pain/pleasure principle. I also believe in making as many decisions as I can sourced from inspiration rather than desperation. That little concept, I believe, can change lives. Read full article  HERE

After Eight Years A Gay Dad Can Finally Call His Boy, His Son. By Joey Troxel

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Feb 5 th , 2015.  We waited 8 years for this day.  When people ask me about my boy, I always say it’s a very complicated story.  Really, its not that complicated, but I don’t want to tell it in a way that makes anyone involved look as if they made mistakes or that somehow our boy was deprived in any way.  It all started 8 years ago when my sister realized she was pregnant.  She had always told me that she didn’t want kids, she just wanted dogs.  I am 18 years older than her so I have known her for her whole life. We talked about her options.  She was dating the child’s birth father and they really wanted to make it work between them, but it just didn’t.  Relationships are tricky.  Adding a baby to the mix at an early stage can really scare a new couple even thought these two knew each other from high school.  My sister had mentioned to me that T and I would be great dads.  I was somewhat shocked.  T and I were a gay couple in our 40’s, with very active Gym base

Gay Dad: “I Am An Assimilating Gay”

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I recently read a comment about a truly important world event, the wedding of Lance Bass to now husband Michael Turchin. Okay, so world news might be a bit of an overstatement but the comment was extremely interesting and got me thinking. The commentator basically stated, and I paraphrase, that he found the fact that E News was going to be airing a show called “Lance Loves Michael: The Lance Bass Wedding” not merely nauseating but he also referred to the happy couple as “Assimilation Gays,” a term that I have seen popping up all to often. Read the full article  HERE

Gabriel Blau, Family Equality Council's Executive Director to write the forward for "Dads Behaving Dadly: Truths Tears and Triumphs of Gay Dads."

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Family Equality Council's Executive Director Gabriel Blau to write the forward for our upcoming book "Dads Behaving Dadly: Truths Tears and Triumphs of Gay Dads."  Gabriel, was recently named one of The Advocate magazine's 40 under 40, a Dad Fighting for All Dads.   His tireless efforts as a representative for all LGBTQ families and our children makes him the perfect activist, warrior and gay dad for the job. We thank Gabriel for all he does and continues to do and are so proud to have him join this project. Be a part of history, be a part of the book. For submission information go to  dadsquared.org Gabriel Blau, 34 New York, D.C., Boston During the big Family Equality Council events, executive director Gabriel Blau and his family often end up in photographs projected on giant screens. He and his husband and son are just one of the many families Blau is fighting for in his everyday work. But that enormous photo on display i

To Be a Dad. A Lesson in Fatherhood by Toyota, Yes I Said Toyota.

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By Henry Amador Toyota launched a beautiful new campaigne called "The Bold New Camry."' Okay before go any further forget what I just said,  forget that this video is somehow tied into to buying a car,  forget that it was created to make a buck.  Forget all of that and sit back and watch this wonderful testament to fatherhood. I am one of those dads that when asked "how do you know you can be a good dad considering your childhood?" answers the same way, with the same tear rolling down my cheek, "I'm trying." When each of these kids are asked how they know their dads love them not a one of them answers based on the things they have, they all answer based on the words they hear, the kisses their fathers give them, the amount of love they are shown and the fact that these dads are present in their childrens lives. Yeah, this video really caught me by surprise, no matter what we came from we all still have the choice and the ability to do

Henry Amador-Batten, One of The DADsquared Founders to Co-Author New Gay Dads Book.

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Henry Amador-Batten is proud to announce that he will be co-authoring an exciting new book that will shine a light on gay dads like never before. Award winning author Hogan Hilling, who to date has published six books on fathers and parenthood invited Henry Amador-Batten to join him on the third "Dads Behaving Dadly" book. " Dads Behaving Dadly: Truths Tears and Triumphs Of Gay Dads " will feature gays dads, worldwide, as they share their beautiful and unique stories of fatherhood. "With more and more gay men joining the ranks of fatherhood, there has never been a better time to share these dads, these families and these stories with the world. It has become my honor and my obligation to become a storyteller for these dads, It is my sincere wish that this book will build bridges, touch hearts and help to solidify our place within the global parenting community."  Henry Amador-Batten Amador-Batten and Hillings invite all gay dads to share the

Man Down! A Gay Dad Waves His White Flag

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By Henry Amador Tired, irritated, angry, distant, envious, tired, overwhelmed, tired, judgmental, did I say tired? These are some of the ways I have been feeling lately and that really has me feeling, well... tired, irritated, angry, distant, envious, overwhelmed, judgmental and tired, really tired. I was recently featured in an article on  Buzzfeed  about how dads balance work and family. I apparently wrote my contribution under the influence of an alter ego or perhaps a nice Riesling or through a pair of rose colored glasses or a sunny day in Winter, I'm not quite certain, but it made me feel like a fraud. Read full article  HERE

Five Things This Gayby Doesn't Want To Hear

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By Dara Fischer Henry Amador recently wrote an excellent article for The Next Family entitled, "Eight Things These Gay Dads Don't Want To Hear"  The article was so clever and hit the nail right on the head.  After reading the blog, I got to thinking about all the questions I have been asked over the years being raised by gay parents, yes, a gay mom and a gay dad! I have picked just a few to share. 1. Are you adopted? No, I am not adopted.  I am genetically 50% my Mom and 50% my Dad.  Though depending on which parent I had ticked off that day, those percentages would increase or decrease.  I also have two non-biological parents, my Terri, whom I have written about before and my Mom’s partner.  I do not differentiate between my parents.  Though I will admit to liking Terri more than my Dad most of the time.  Dad can cook but Terri was a hairdresser who could not only perm my hair but brush it without ripping it out.  Terri’s talents were greatl

8 Things These Gay Dads Do Not Want To Hear.

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1. When are you going to tell him he's adopted and do you think he will take the news well? We're not, we are planning on waiting until he is either eighteen or just senses that he's different to SURPRISE him with the news. Adoption is not a bad word, we have used the term since he was born. Firstly we are two men, as soon as the birds and the bees fly into our home he might start to get an inkling but by the time that rolls around he will be very comfortable with the idea of how our family was created. Read the full article  HERE