Monday, December 29, 2014

A Gay Dads New Year Message for his Three Year Old Son..

Dear little man,

It will soon be 2015, and although your little mind can not understand this yet, we are on the edge of some exciting and momentous of things.

read the full article HERE

Sunday, December 28, 2014

Three Ways To Keep The Holidays Gay

As the new year approaches we often find ourselves feeling a tad overwhelmed, frustrated and oh so weary.
It’s as if we are looking at life, at ourselves and all the people we encounter with those horrible magnifying makeup mirrors. 
Every flaw, every nuance is exaggerated and every feeling seems designed to personally attack and put us on the automatic defense.
We want things to be perfect. 
We need things to be perfect and quite frankly we are setting ourselves up for disaster.
I learned a long time ago that are some simple, yet powerful actions I could put into place to avoid heartache, disaster and allowing the Grinches in.

Here are three.

Read the full article HERE

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

The Christmas Truck. A Gem of a Holiday Book for all Daddy and Papa Families.

I just had the pleasure of reading The Christmas Truck to my three year old son,
He sat enthralled and excited through each and every page.

"That little boy has a Daddy and Papa just like me!' he exclaimed and there is no greater joy for me than when my boy sees his family represented, especially in such a loving and special way.

The story takes us along with a cool same-gender family as they embrace the true spirit of Christmas, The spirit of giving.

We tag along as they prepare their home and their hearts for the holidays.
They teach their son about giving to others less fortunate than he and about overcoming obstacles.
With the love of his family and the quick thinking of his awesome grandma nothing gets in the way of making a special Christmas wish come true.

The Christmas Truck,
lovingly written by J.B. Blankenship and beautifully illustrated by Cassandre Bolan  has already become one of our holiday traditions and I hope it becomes one of yours also.

Click HERE to purchase this lovely book and have it in your home just in time for Christmas.

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Her Side, DADsquared Shares a Surrogates Beautiful Story.

One of the most amazing gifts I get from working with DADsquared is the building of relationships.
I read and share stories daily from families all over the country.
We hear of their struggles, their triumphs, the stumbling blocks on the road to parenthood and some of the tools that led to success.

One voice I do not share often enough is that of the surrogate.

Many of us have have become parents with their help.
Some of us maintain these special relationships in so many different ways.
They may be our child's special "aunt" or a close family friend.
Some of our children know them truthfully as their birth-mothers and yet others may never know them at all.

Regardless of what place they may hold in our hearts they are undeniably magical, special and for many.. mysterious women.

I often hear..
"how could a woman do that?"
"I could never carry a baby and then give it up."

I will say that I have learned that for some surrogates it is a calling and for others, bringing a child to a gay family, is a calling that has even deeper meaning.

I recently got to know Tina Galletti, she lives in Idaho with a loving husband and her two children.
Tina has helped create four families, and three of them were for gay couples.
I asked Tina To share her story with us and here is what she had to say...

It all started 8 years ago while sitting with my new baby. I remember like it was yesterday saying to my husband from across the room, " how would you feel about me being a surrogate?" His exact words were "whatever you want dear."
Little did he know his words would be the beginning of four pregnancies ultimately leading to the birth of 5 boys with one more (final) one on the way.
Even better, none of us could know how full our lives would become after carrying for some really fantastic couples three of whom are same sex daddies.
I often joke about all the great men in my life and how some day my dream is to have us all together in one room.

 My first surrogacy was wonderful resulting is in an amazing little boy. I carried him for a straight couple, a lovely couple yet something was missing, In the end I didn't have the feeling I had hoped for, 
I can't really explain it but I had a sense that carrying for two men would be what I was looking for and I was definitely right.

I remember the first phone conversation I had with a potential gay couple, the feeling was like I just had a blind date. I felt kind of giddy with the idea they were the ones.
We worked well together from the get go and through it all I have gained an amazing and special extended part of my family.
The respect they had for us through everything was wonderful and continues to this day with frequent phone calls.
The day their boys were born and I witnessed them holding their sons for the first time was amazing, I felt that "feeling" I was hoping for I knew that I was done making babies.
I laugh now thinking that there was no way I was done,  I wasn't even close to being done.
I had hoped that first gay couple would have wanted more kids because I just could not imagine carrying for anyone else.
When I was ready to get started again I remember feeling like I needed their blessing and I got even more than that,  I got whole-hearted support from them.

I was matched with another great same sex couple and went on to carry two more boys and have once again gained another wonderful experience. My husband and I are called uncle and auntie and my daughter knows them as her cousins. She loves that they all came from her mommy.
Surrogacy has been part of my 9 year old daughter’s life since she was 1 and this is all she knows.
If asked about surrogacy she will tell you exactly what is involved and how these babies are created with love.

I am currently 20 weeks pregnant with one little boy and I can say without hesitation this is my final pregnancy, lol!
I am enjoying every minute of babysitting this little guy for his wonderful daddies.

Tina and her family.

I am looking forward to the next phase of my life with my husband and children.
I can’t emphasize enough without the wonderful support of my husband I would have never been a surrogate.
He is a wonderful and giving man who loves all of these families and the boys as if they were his own.
Being a surrogate for these wonderful families has enriched my life beyond belief.
There simply are no words that can explain how blessed and happy I feel.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

10 Things A Gay Parent Should Never Do.

Working as a Holistic Parenting Coach and especially working with LGBTQ families, I have learned that while many parenting issues are universal and effect all parents, there are indeed issues that arise that are unique to gay parents, and deeper still to gay dads. The following list was compiled from some of that work. It is not meant to be a definitive “how-to” list. There are some lovely treasures here. Take what resonates with your heart and remember to love one another fully, passionately and knowledgeably.

Read the full article HERE

Photo “Love Is What Really Matters” by Purple Sherbet Photography is licensed under CC BY 2.0

Monday, November 17, 2014

13 Breath-Taking Moments And The Gay Dads That Lived Them

This time of year always finds me giving thanks.
I give thanks for the life I have, the family and friends I have and for the moments that define me.
I wanted to reach out to just a few of the dads in my life, a few heroes that have pursued their dreams to become fathers. They have pursued those dreams against great odds and are opening doors, minds and hearts so that others will follow.
All around this world, the number of gay men choosing to become fathers is increasing, rapidly.
They are setting goals, taking out loans, loosing friends, family and sometimes faith in order to have the honor and the privilege to raise a child.
This journey is aw inspiring and at times emotional beyond comprehension.
The journey, the destination called parenthood comes at a great cost for many of us and yet gives birth to moments of both sheer beauty and devastating pain.
Moments that at their finest and at their saddest, take our breaths away.
Read the full article HERE

Saturday, November 8, 2014

America: Land of the Free and Home of the Gays

My husband and I recently celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary. Our son and I share a birthday around the same date as well, so my family likes to plan a fun and special getaway to commemorate it all.
This year we decided to visit our nation’s capital, Washington D.C.
It seemed fitting, based on the fact that our marriage is now, finally, legally recognized in our home state of North Carolina and also because of the enormous strides that marriage equality has been making in recent days.
read the full article here

Monday, October 13, 2014

On The Road (To Gay Daddyhood) Again! Part Three, Hoops, Hurdles and The Matching Game.

I am happy to say that as I write this articles my husband and I have completed the required classes in the MAPP program, Model Approach to Partnerships in Parenting for North Carolina.

We received a lovely certificate as our class mates cheered as each of our family names were called.

I am also happy to say that ALL three of the same-gender families that started the program were among the recipients of the coveted certificate.

So what does that mean?
Do we now get down to the business of meeting children and growing our families?

Well....... not exactly.

read the full article here

Monday, September 15, 2014

A “Wedding” wedding. by Joey Troxel

Its just a ceremony, it doesn’t really mean anything.  I mean, we have been together for 10 years and we have a 7yr old child.  We already committed to each other long ago.  That’s what I kept telling everyone.   Its not a “Wedding” wedding, Its just a formality.

We decided last year that we needed to get married.  There were many reasons for the decision. The biggest one was so I could legally change my last name in order to start the process of all three of us having the same last name.  Or course there were other reason too.  For instance, I am on T’s health insurance at his work.  His employer is nice enough to offer their health insurance to domestic partners of employees.  This means that regardless of if your partner is the same sex or different sex, they can be covered through the employee’s health insurance without being married.  The bad part is that you are taxed on that benefit.  It’s a pretty hefty tax.  Every year we get a letter from his employer saying that an extra $10,000 will be added to T’s gross pay for the year so when he pays taxes at the end of the year, he will pay on the higher amount.  This of course is illegal to do to married couples but employers’ are required to do this for domestic partner coverage to non-married partners.  Nice, huh?  I could go on and on but the fact is, it was time to be legally recognized federally as a couple and as a family.  This is only one of the over 1000 federal benefits that married couples are entitled to.

We live in Arizona, which does not recognize or permit same-sex marriage so getting married here in front of our friends was out of the question.  We then figured we would just go across state lines to California.  That was the simplest thing to do.  We could find a courthouse, get married and we would be done with it.   When we went home to Minnesota for Thanksgiving last year, we told T’s mom the plan about California and she was not happy.  She wanted to be involved in the wedding and she wanted to be there for it.  Ok, great, I thought.  Now this is getting complicated.  Of course, in my mind, I knew all along that she would want to be there but now I was hearing it out loud.  Now what?

Well, as it turns out, T’s home state of Minnesota has same sex marriage.  So, we could do a trip back up there and get married.  I told her I would look into it.  As 2014 arrived, and the holidays were over, I started to look at dates for the summer.  In March, we realized that T’s sister from Florida would be visiting her mom in Minnesota during the second week of July.   He has another sister that lives about 30 minutes from his mom in Fargo, ND.  It seemed to me that if we were going to have family at the wedding, we would need to do it during his sister’s July visit to Minnesota.  That’s when it all started coming together.   I looked at the dates and it all added up for us to get married on July 13, 2014.  I checked the rules for Minnesota for gay marriage on their website.  It was all laid out in plain English.  I could download the marriage application online, and it would need to be presented to the courthouse in person by at least one of the grooms.  Then, there was a 5-day waiting period before you could get married.  That presented us with the first two problems.  Problem number one was how can we drop off the application in person if we live in Arizona?  Problem number two was if there is a 5-day waiting period, we have to be there for at least 5 days before we could even get married much less have a honeymoon.   We decided that T would go to Minnesota alone in mid June to fill out the paperwork and get his part of the license requirement completed.  He could then bring home the paperwork for me to sign and get notarized here in Arizona and I could mail my part back to the state of Minnesota.   That would solve the issue of at least 1 person in the marriage dropping the application off to the state in person and assuming I got my part of the paperwork notarized and mailed back to them in time, it would solve the 5-day waiting period.    Then, I asked the lady on the phone at the state house about getting a Justice of the Peace.  Well, as it turns out, in Minnesota there are no Justice’s of the Peace.  You have to hire a “Wedding Officiant”.  That means an Ordained Minister, or someone else that does weddings.  I did not want any part of the church involved in my wedding so that left out most of the usual officiants.  The state had a list of people that were certified to be wedding officiants, but almost all of them were in Minneapolis, Saint Paul, Duluth and other cities that were very far from where we were going to get married, in Western Minnesota.  That became problem number 3.  Who can we get to marry us?

This is one of those situations where you just have to put it out of your mind for a while and the answer will just come to you, and it did.  On April 3rd, Will Horton married Sonny Kiriakis on Days of our lives.  It was the first all male same sex wedding on the soaps and it was absolutely beautiful.  Will asked his grandma, Marlena Evans (Played by Deidre Hall, LOVE HER!!) to go online and become an Ordained Minister .  She thought it was crazy but he said that he couldn’t imagine his wedding day without her marrying them because she has been by his side since he came out.  He wanted her to be the one because he trusted her and because she loved both him and his boyfriend Sonny.  That’s when it hit me.  We needed the same thing.  We needed someone who loves the both of us and who has been by our side from the moment we met almost 10 years ago.  It was obvious that the person who would marry us would need to be T’s mother.   I could think of no other person that knew us better than she did. 

I sent her a message on Facebook and expected her to just yes me and that would be it.  Keep in mind its still April and we are only a few weeks into the preliminary planning of this.  Five days goes by and she contacts me to tell me she got her package in the mail and that she is now an Ordained Minister.  I was speech less. I of course said congratulations and that we were every excited to have her marry us but in my mind I was like “Holy smoke, she aint kidding.” When she puts her mind to something, she doesn’t play games.  That’s how Minnesota people are.  Problem # 3  was now solved!

Well now that we had someone to marry us, we needed a place to have the wedding.  I told T and his mom that money is tight and that we had a budge of basically nothing.  We could afford the plane tickets and hotel but a “Wedding” wedding was out of the question.  Plus, this was just a ceremonial thing.  I didn’t really want a “Wedding” wedding, because we have been together for 10 years, right?  I just need the piece of paper.   That’s what I kept saying.  Luckily, neither my mother-in-law nor my husband ever listened to me.  Since we were going to be there while T’s sister from Florida was visiting, his family wanted us all to stay in one big cabin with many bedrooms.  This way we have a full kitchen, a game room, our own private lake, etc.  And, the kids could all play together since they would all be sharing common areas.  We have done this before and it’s a win, win for everyone.  These cabin homes cost about $800.00 a night during peak season in Minnesota (Summer) but spread out among 4 families, it becomes the same as staying in a nice hotel room.  I agreed to this, but of course I kept saying “the budget, the budget!”  As we got closer to the wedding date, and once we found a resort to stay at, we started planning the ceremony, the meal and the cake.  The ceremony was tricky.  First, it’s a same sex wedding so there is no real template.  Second, its an atheist wedding so once you remove the stuff about god and the church from the standard wedding template you are left with nothing because a church wedding isn’t about the people getting married, its about the church.  Third, it’s my mother-in-law’s first wedding as a wedding officiant and I wanted it to be perfect for her.  It became very obvious to me, very quickly that I would need to personally write the entire wedding sermon and try and get everyone on board with it.  I have been to one wedding in my life and it was this past May.  I have very little wedding experience.  Still, I am a wiz with words and a computer keyboard so I jumped into this task head first.  I put together a wedding sermon that was all about us. It talked about how T and I met, our family, our journey, and our future.  I felt pretty satisfied with it and so did my husband and his mother.  She actually loved it.  Since we lived in two different states, I made a video of myself talking through it to give her an idea of how it should sound or least how it sounded in my head.  She said that really helped her.  Ok, so now we have a sermon in place. 

We needed to find a place to do the actual ceremony that was safe for us and we needed to find a place to eat afterwards.  We talked about making meals for everyone but we decided we didn’t want that responsibility.  My mother-in-law made a call to the restaurant at the resort and told them we were getting married on Sunday the 13th of July and that we wanted to possibly come to the restaurant for dinner afterwards.  The guy on the phone was very nice but he told her that they had 3 wedding that weekend and that it was pretty booked up.  She reminded him that most people get married on Saturday at resorts and that we are doing this on Sunday.  He confirmed that they had no wedding dinners reserved for Sunday.  He told her that we could have their “private room” for $500.00 and that they would serve a family style menu that was about $28.00-$30.00 per person.  Ok, my mother in law is very sweet, and just loves everyone she meets.  But, when she wants something for her kids, she aint taking no for an answer.  She reminded him that we would be bringing about 18 people for dinner that night and that on a Sunday it would be slow for the restaurant since that’s when everyone goes back home from a resort hotel.  She said we couldn’t afford $500.00 just for the room itself and then still have to pay $30.00 a person for dinner.  The guy came down to $250.00 and after another few more minutes of painful negotiations he finally said, “Lady, you can have the room for free!!”   Did I mention she was from MN?

During this conversation, she asked him about having the wedding on the property and he mentioned that there is a beautiful, picturesque spot behind the restaurant that is set up for having a wedding ceremony.  It had an alter, a running creek, woods, etc.  She got him to agree to throw that in for us also for free.  She called to tell us this and while I was happy to hear it, I felt kind of bad for the restaurant manager.  He really was in way over his head with my mother in law.   Bless her heart!

Meanwhile, T was making phone calls to get a cake for us for the wedding.  After a few phone calls, he was told that Shaeffer’s Grocery made wedding cakes for the resort.  He called over there and asked about a cake.  Well as you can imagine, the cake prices were crazy.  T explained to them that we didn’t need a cake with three levels or anything like that.  We just needed an 8 inch round cake that looked nice enough for a wedding but that wasn’t going to cost as much as a “Wedding” wedding cake.  So, they agreed to make a single layer cake for $25.00.  I thought, ok, this is going to be a disaster.  A $25.00 wedding cake from a grocery store?  Really, I didn’t care, it was just a piece of paper and a ceremony so we could change our names and stop paying those extra taxes, Right? I mean, it’s not a “Wedding” wedding.  By the way, this is a great time to throw in here that Wal-Mart sells individual grooms (and brides) to put on top of a cake.  I was very surprised by this and tried to understand why they offered them separated from the bride.  Its like they are supporting same sex marriage without actually supporting it.  Then I realized they sold the grooms (and brides) in different skin tones and it was clear that you could pick the right skin tones of each little statue for your particular marriage. I for one should know that not every family is from a standard mold.  I grabbed the last two Caucasian grooms they had.

June comes and T goes to Minnesota to do his part for the marriage license.  He gets my paperwork from the state so he could bring it back home to me to get notarized.  I gave him 5 days there on his own to visit so he could spend some time with his mom.  While he was there, they decided to drive to the resort to check it out and scope out the situation.  It was very smart of them to do that.   It gave them an idea of what they needed to buy for the wedding and where it would all happen.  After 5 days had gone by, T headed back home to Arizona.

July arrived and it was time to leave for Minnesota for the wedding.  Even at this point, I was just treating this like a family vacation.  The wedding part meant nothing to me other than a piece of paper.  Forget that after 10 years with T, I am still in love with him.  Forget that we have a 7yr old child.  Forget that his mother is planning an actual wedding.  I was not having any part of all that.  Oh yeah, I am such a catch sometimes, huh?   The wedding day gets here and we actually had some friends of ours from Phoenix fly in for the weekend.  I told them not to waste their money coming for this because it wasn’t a “Wedding” wedding, it was just a formality but they weren’t having any part of it.  I thought, ok, suit yourselves but you are wasting a lot of money.  Somehow, they knew we would want our best friends there to support us but at the time, I couldn’t see it.  I love them so much for that.  We also had other friends there from T’s mother.  It was her first official ceremony as an officiant and we thought she should have a few friends there for support if she wanted to.  So here we are, ready to get married, we have friends and family all around us.  We have a beautiful flower girl (our niece), two handsome 7 & 8 year old ring bearers (my son and his cousin), a best man for T (his step dad) and my best woman (T’s sister, who I am very close to) and a wedding officiant that not only is marrying us today but that loves us both very much.  It was a picture perfect day for weather, the area for the ceremony was perfectly decorated by T and his mom and we are ready to go.  The video camera is turned on and… Action!  The entire thing goes off nicely but even during my vows, I still feel like it’s just a formality.  We are just doing this to change my name and stop paying the extra taxes.  It’s not really a “Wedding” wedding.

Cut to two weeks later.  We are back home in Phoenix, our lives are back to being routine, and one day I am at my computer trying to take all the photos and video clips and somehow form the official wedding video.  As I finish putting it all together, I start crying.  I can’t help myself, its just starts happening.  Nobody else is home and I didn’t even think about crying at all during the wedding trip but now, at home, alone, I am crying.  As I watch the video I just made, it is absolutely beautiful.  There is great footage of the welcoming resort we stayed at.  There is wonderful footage of our friends joining us for our special day.  Our family is standing next to us, proud and ready.  All the kids are so happy to be part of the event that they are smiling large in every photo.  Our niece walks down the aisle spreading beautiful red flowers.  Our ring bearers walk in unison side by side each holding a Chinese take out box with a wedding ring in it (symbolic because T and I met at a Chinese restaurant for our first date). My husband looks so handsome and his eyes are filled with love as he looks at me.  My mother in law is marrying us and not only is she NOT stumbling through her first ceremony, she’s gleaming with excitement and she says her words lovingly.  My best woman is crying.  In fact all the women are crying.  As I look at the video, I can see myself kiss my husband and everyone is hugging us with congratulations.  As the video continues, we have a wonderful dinner at the restaurant where the staff is fantastic.  The cake looks awesome with the two grooms on top, and the video shows 18 people celebrating the love of a family that has been 10 years in the making.  When I look at this video, I see only one thing.  A wedding.  And no, not just a wedding.  I mean, a “Wedding” wedding.  Somehow, while I was going on and on about how it meant nothing but a formality, my mother-in-law and my husband were putting together the wedding of my dreams and our friends wouldn’t let us go through it without them being by our side.  Sure, we didn’t have a traditional church wedding like everyone else, but instead we had a wedding filled with family.  The family that has stood by us for 10 years and the family that will be there for the rest of our lives.  I get it now.  I totally understand.  Your wedding day is very special.  I never should have trivialized it and I thank the stars that everyone around me saw right through that and gave me the wedding that even I didn’t know I wanted, or needed.  Lucky for me, my mother-in-law is from Minnesota.  She’s sweet, but she doesn’t take no for an answer.   

"Who am I? That’s simple. I am a gay parent that’s treated like a second class citizen and I am done taking it. 
Every day I am in the battlefields, in my kid’s school, PTA meetings, swim team, birthday parties with
other parents and I am forcing people to meet me.

Every day I stand right next to them and even if it’s just in my mind, I say “ Look at me will you! I am a gay man, right in front of you. 

I have a partner of 8 years and a 6r old boy. 

My kid is in your kid’s class and will be for the next 11 years. 

I am not going away so now would be as good a time as any to accept me and everything that comes with me."
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Thursday, September 11, 2014

21 Photos That Depict True Modern Fatherhood by Doyin Richards

By: Doyin Richards

Today's dads are clueless, incompetent, emotionless buffoons who don't know their asses from their elbows when it comes to childcare, right? Wrong. Dead wrong. The overwhelming majority of us (yes, I said, the overwhelming majority) are smart, loving, and just plain awesome men who put our families first. Don't believe me? Check out this compilation of photos taken directly from the Daddy Doin' Work Instagram feed. Contrary to what you'll find in mainstream media, this diverse group of dads perfectly illustrates what life is really like for fathers all over the world.
If a picture is worth a thousand words, then you should prepare yourself for an epic 21,000-word post on modern fatherhood. Enjoy.
1. Dads become supremely confident the moment their kids are born.
2. Dads know how to catch a nap even when they're outnumbered.
3. Dads always give their kids VIP seating in life.
4. Dads get pedicures with their daughters.
5. Dads know how to be sensitive, especially when their babies need them to be.
6. Dads know how to rock a baby carrier.
7. Dads also know how to rock a sling.
8. Dads know that their kids take the best selfies.
9. Dads know how to be silly.
10. Dads know to apply makeup for their daughters before a dance recital begins.
11. Dads know that the job sucks sometimes.
12. Dads know a genetic bond isn't required to have a strong bond with their kids.
13. Dads will comfort their kids, even when it's uncomfortable to do so.
14. Dads help with potty training.
15. Dads transform their bodies into the best playground ever made.
16. Dads know how to make their kids smile.
17. Dads have excellent game faces.
18. Dads will let their kids paint their nails.
19. Dads know that tiny humans will be very excited for them to come home.
20. Dads don't take a moment they have with their kids for granted.
21. Dads aren't afraid to say, "I love you."

This blog post originally appeared on Daddy Doin' Work. Photo credit: Instagram/@daddydoinwork.Doyin Richards
By: Doyin Richards
Original Article from The Huffington Post

Monday, September 8, 2014

On The Road (To Gay Daddyhood) Again! Part Two, Shaking the Gays Away.

So we began our MAPP classes this past August 26th, 2014.
MAPP being the State-required class to license as a Foster or Adoptive parent, Model Approach to Partnerships in Parenting.

In part one I shared how my husband and I were a part of a very special group when we licensed in our old home State of Florida.
We were a part of the State's first all (openly) gay and lesbian.

Going into this again here in our new State of North Carolina had us curious.
How would this class look?
How welcomed might we feel?
How diverse would it be?

Read full article on The Next Family here.
Photo Beau Rogers

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

How young is too young to teach hate? A gay dad's dilema.

Once a year, here in Durham NC, we have an amazing event called the Noth Carolina Gay and Lesbian Film Festival.
It is held at the beautiful Carolina Theatre of Durham, a theatre that was built in 1926 and that has seen so much, not just in the name of art and history but in the way of civil right's movements and the blur of faces, causes,  triumpths and injustices, all that have played out not just on it's screen or stage but on its sidewalks and walkways.

What should have been a lovely morning took a turn.
Another moment in history was about to be played out.

Read full article here The Next Family

Henry Amador is a husband, father, writer and life coach.

Henry founded DADsquared where he continues to provide love, support and resources to gay fathers and those on the road to fatherhood.
He lives in North Carolina with his happy tribe and hopes to grow old on the family farm with rolling hills, many children, grandchildren and a strong internet connection.