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A “Wedding” wedding. by Joey Troxel

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Its just a ceremony, it doesn’t really mean anything.  I mean, we have been together for 10 years and we have a 7yr old child.  We already committed to each other long ago.  That’s what I kept telling everyone.   Its not a “Wedding” wedding, Its just a formality. We decided last year that we needed to get married.  There were many reasons for the decision. The biggest one was so I could legally change my last name in order to start the process of all three of us having the same last name.  Or course there were other reason too.  For instance, I am on T’s health insurance at his work.  His employer is nice enough to offer their health insurance to domestic partners of employees.  This means that regardless of if your partner is the same sex or different sex, they can be covered through the employee’s health insurance without being married.  The bad part is that you are taxed on that benefit.  It’s a pretty hefty tax.  Every year we get a letter from his e

21 Photos That Depict True Modern Fatherhood by Doyin Richards

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By:  Doyin Richards Today's dads are clueless, incompetent, emotionless buffoons who don't know their asses from their elbows when it comes to childcare, right? Wrong. Dead wrong. The overwhelming majority of us (yes, I said, the overwhelming majority) are smart, loving, and just plain awesome men who put our families first. Don't believe me? Check out this compilation of photos taken directly from the  Daddy Doin' Work Instagram feed . Contrary to what you'll find in mainstream media, this diverse group of dads perfectly illustrates what life is really like for fathers all over the world. If a picture is worth a thousand words, then you should prepare yourself for an epic 21,000-word post on modern fatherhood. Enjoy. 1. Dads become supremely confident the moment their kids are born. 2. Dads know how to catch a nap even when they're outnumbered. 3. Dads always give their kids VIP seating in life. 4. Dads get pedicures with their daughte

On The Road (To Gay Daddyhood) Again! Part Two, Shaking the Gays Away.

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So we began our MAPP classes this past August 26th, 2014. MAPP being the State-required class to license as a Foster or Adoptive parent, Model Approach to Partnerships in Parenting. In part one I shared how my husband and I were a part of a very special group when we licensed in our old home State of Florida. We were a part of the State's first all (openly) gay and lesbian. Going into this again here in our new State of North Carolina had us curious. How would this class look? How welcomed might we feel? How diverse would it be? Read full article  on The Next Family here. Photo  Beau Rogers

How young is too young to teach hate? A gay dad's dilema.

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Once a year, here in Durham NC, we have an amazing event called the  Noth Carolina Gay and Lesbian Film Festival . It is held at the beautiful  Carolina Theatre of Durham , a theatre that was built in 1926 and that has seen so much, not just in the name of art and history but in the way of civil right's movements and the blur of faces, causes,  triumpths and injustices, all that have played out not just on it's screen or stage but on its sidewalks and walkways. What should have been a lovely morning took a turn. Another moment in history was about to be played out. Read full article here  The Next Family Henry Amador is a husband, father, writer and  life coach . Henry founded  DADsquared  where he continues to provide love, support and resources to gay fathers and those on the road to fatherhood. He lives in North Carolina with his happy tribe and hopes to grow old on the family farm with rolling hills, m