Monday, March 12, 2012

This Fathers Agenda

Yesterday My husband and I took our son to the park.

We packed up all the things that little boy would need for a great day under the Sun.
His formula, 
his favorite toys,
lots of sunblock and his cutest hat.
we were joined by Karen and Irene and their beautiful 8 month old daughter Lucy
Karen, Lucy and Irene

There was also Chris, Jeremy and thier 18 month old twins Chloe and Jackson,

Todd and Gabriel with their sons Eli and Jayden.

Tim and Jim with their 3 beautiful kids,
and a handful of other parents..

We listened to music, 
sat under a big tree with sprawled out on blankets and ate junky fair food...heaven!

That was our agenda for the day,
and it was perfect.

There happened to be a lot of other people there although our group felt very small and intimate..

There was also a nice fellow there taking pictures and jotting down some notes, you see as regular and ordinary as our park day is sounding, it was actually at the South Florida Pride Festival.
A big yearly LGBT event.

This nice man hovering around ended up being a reporter for our newspaper the Fort Lauderdale Sun-Sentinel.

Seems that Gay families are big news, 
and the fact that there were so many this year with strollers in tow was even bigger news.

So later that evening after this awesome day we get word that our family was featured in the article,
here is the link.,0,1791423.story

We were busy feeding and bathing the baby, who was rather wound up fom such an exciting day.
So it was later in the night before we got to read it.

by the time we sat on the sofa to check it out, 
I actually thought to myself what a perfect end to a perfect day...

The article was good..
It stated some interesting facts about our community,
and it pointed out that Ben was special, we agree.

It also mentioned our friends Karen and Irene and included a fantastic photo of their family and Lucy's unbelievable smile.

Then I had to go and ruin it..
I started reading the comments that were flooding in..
My Husband warned me and I, as usual should have listened.

There was much talk of our Gay Agenda....
although, frankly, I have to admit i dont know what it is..

So I read on because I like to be educated.

icanread wrote:
I really like Gay people, I work with them, I do business with them, I listen to them talk about "Gay Rights" issues and its all hate if you don't agree with them. It will always be, your a hater or you denying them some rights they think they don't have, they work very hard to push gays into politics, journalism (like the jack a** that wrote this story) 

to start with I corrected all her grammatical mistakes,
You don't really like Gay people, when I like people I want the best for them, you don't.
The rights we think we don't have, we actually don't have.
We are in politics because we are Americans and we vote.
And regarding Journalism, well we make a pretty good read.
Oh and how polite to not write ASS when you've already spewed out such SHIT.

JOE326 wrote:
They all demand the very rights they don't afford anyone else.

the right to marry,
to raise families,
to file taxes jointly,
to be able to visit our spouses in the hospital, or to not loose our homes if God forbid they pass,
are rights that are already afforded, to you Joe, not to me.

He continued to add:

If Gays are allowed to adopt because they are given the right to do so, do these children have any rights?
If they become old enough to recognize that they don't want to live in a household with two Gay parents and want out, do they have any say in the matter?

Where do I begin?
If my Son grows up one day and decides he hates his Dads, for the million other reasons that a teenager decides he hates his parents,
can he "want out?"
hell no he can't...
because we are his family, his heart, his home..and children don't really "want out" of that, do they?
Our children are as unlikely to leave us for being Gay as yours are for you being a Biggot.

Now lets meet Adsense, who wrote:
You are so very right. I know Gays as well; In fact I use to live the lifestyle for a few years. They say anyone that does not agree is in fact hating and that is certainly not true at all.

Adsense, you don't live the lifestyle for a few years, you are born Gay, and the dangerous concept that you can stop being Gay is why our Gay youths are killing themselves. Shame on you.

And I'll end with dear Joe who so eloquently adds:
I thought GAY stood for "Got Aids Yet?"

Boy that Joe is a peach huh?
You can read more comments if you choose, I just shared a sampling.

So anyway all this agenda talk came out of a simple day in the park.
Parents with their childen loving, laughing and living their lives.
Completely naive to what people might think.

So when it comes to this Gay agenda thing I guess I should have one right?

I'm working on it,
but for starters it will go something like this,

To be a loyal and loving Husband,
To raise a happy son,
make sure he is educated and prepared
surround him, protect him and give him all the things he will need to be a productive member of society.

And to be sure that when I put this article into his baby book,
That I omit all the comments that tried to make such a perfect day so ugly.

That's this dads agenda.

Author and Son


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  1. This breaks my heart. I am so sorry that you had to reach such hateful, ignorant statements. You are a beautiful family - and I am so proud to be a part of your life.

    1. Thank you Tiffani, we are fine..I am at times so naive to that kind of hate..amazing that at the fine age of 48 I am still stopped in my place, even if only for a moment!

  2. Henry my dear chap. Ignore them all. Love is what makes the world go round. They don't feel love - they feel the opposite..which is naked fear. Fear is what makes people behave badly to others. Nothing else. I have no clue what they are afraid of...and I don't care. Your love for Joel and your family will shield you always from such fears that others carry. Pity them because they are in a constant place where fear rules. Rather them than me. Pray for them. Perhaps one day they may feel the kind of love that you feel every moment. Pray that they can and that they will. x Tracy x

  3. My Dear are correct...and as much as I try to stay there, focused and loving there are times when I just want to......... I will let you fill in the blank!
    Thank you!

  4. Henry, Right after I read your blog I saw this posted on my facebook wall. I had to share.

    "Everything that has a beginning has an ending. Make your peace with that and all will be well." ~ Buddha

    Much love to you, "Joe" and Ben

    1. Ah....the Buddha, always the right words at the right time!
      thanks sue! xo